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Overview SUBTITLE: Developing The Masculine Identity Our quest to level the playing field between boys and girls has lead to a lopsidedness that leaves many boys feeling confused. God created man and woman as separate but equal. When we try to feminize boys or masculinize women, we discredit God?s original design. This book describes the importance of pushing boys toward risk and adventure; qualities that lead to genuine self esteem. There are no short cuts to personal growth or manhood. The book argues that every boy needs to face himself, to face some dreaded test. Some men go through most of their lives avoiding the test but they never become the men they want to be, or the men God wants them to be, unless they meet it head-on.
The opening sections describe what boys need most if they are to become the men that God can use. It includes anecdotes, stories, interviews, and studies to bolster the thesis that men desperately want to a blueprint for their masculine journey. It tells men how to prepare their sons to face their tests and explains why it is so important that well-meaning women encourage the growth into manhood instead of thwart it.
As our postmodern culture seeks to redefine Biblical morality, relationships have taken a serious hit, even within the Church. How does this affect men? From boyhood, to the teenage years, and on through mid-life and retirement, the book describes what men in each of these stages of life are dealing with?the challenges they face. In some instances, men feel they cannot measure up to the expectations placed on them at work, in their marriage or in their spiritual life. Fortunately there are answers and these come together in the final section, ?Reclaiming Masculinity.?
Sample chapter titles:
Seeking Adventure: A Rite of Passage Letting Boys Be Boys: Developing the Masculine Identity Little Boy be Good: Social Pressures to Tame Boys Caught in the Crossfire: Teenage Boys Who Won?t Grow Up Finding Family: The Search to Belong Mid-Age Madness: The Last The Golden Boys: Is that All There Is? How the Women?s Movement Failed Men and Women The Myth of Sameness: Embracing the Creator?s Intent for the Sexes Media Madness: How the Media Marginalizes Men and Fathers What Do Men Need Most? Relationships: Minefields of Change Pulling It All Together
"AS TODAY POSTMODERN CULTURE seeks to redefine biblical morality, relationships have taken a serious hit, even within the Church."
How does this redefinition affect men? From boyhood, to the teenage years, and on through mid-life and retirement, Whisker Rubs describes what men in each of these stages of life are dealing with and the challenges they face. In some instances, men feel they cannot measure up to the expectations placed on them at work, in their marriages, or in their spiritual life. Fortunately they are answers, and these come together in the final section, "Reclaiming Masculinity."
Whisker Rubs is filled with anecdotes, stories, interviews, and studies to bolster the thesis that men desperately want to have a blueprint for their masculine journey.
* Letting Boys Be Boys: Developing the masculine Identity
* Little Boy Be Good: Social Pressures to Tame Boys
* Caught in the Crossfire: Teenage Boys Who Won't grow Up
* Finding Family: The Search to Belong
* Middle-Aged Madness: The Last Stand
* The Golden Boys: Is that All There Is?
* How the Women's Movement Failed Men...and Women
* The Myth of Sameness: Embracing the Creator's Intent for the Sexes
* Media Madness: How the Media Marginalizes Men and Fathers
* What Do Men Need Most?
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Studio: Living Ink Books
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.27" Width: 6.58" Height: 0.76" Weight: 0.98 lbs.
Release Date Mar 16, 2007
Publisher AMG Publishers
ISBN 0899571174 ISBN13 9780899571171
Availability 0 units.
More About Don S. Otis
Compiler and contributing author Don Otis is the author of "Trickle-Down Morality" and "Teach Your Children Well." In his mid-forties, Don has competed in triathlons throughout the western U.S., run in dozens of road races over more than twenty years, and climbed mountains on three continents.
Don S. Otis currently resides in Sandpoint, in the state of Idaho. Don S. Otis was born in 1956.
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Great Book for Understanding Boys Feb 15, 2010
In the last couple years, I've read a number of books on the spiritual and social development of boys & men, from both secular and Christian authors, and I have to admit, this books is one of the best I've found. It seems to have a lot of similarities with "Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul" by John Eldredge (if you liked that one you'll like this one) and does a great job of exploring the heart and soul of men and boys and the factors that influence a boy's spiritual development.
"Boys don't become men in the presence of women. They become men in the presence of other men. They become men when they test themselves, when someone pushes them to the limit of what they think they can do. In a perfect world, dads do this pushing. If dad isn't around, or he isn't up to the task, other men must step in...As dads or as mentors to other boys we don't have a roadmap. We often don't know the way and stumble in the dark. We hope we're doing the right thing but aren't sure. Then unexpectedly, we see something n our boys that confirms we're doing something right." (page 18)
He goes on to describe the stages of a man's life and how his role, as well as the way he views himself, changes over time. Over all I believe this is a very valuable book for anyone seeking to understand the development of boys into Christ-like men.
For other good books (Christian & secular) on male development try Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father's Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood by Robert Lewis, The Wonder of Boysby Michael Gurian, King Me: What Every Son Wants and Needs from His Fatherby Steve Farrar, and Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boysby Kindlon & Thompson.
"Whisker Rubs" a book for all seasons of a man's life. Feb 17, 2008
When I saw "Whisker Rubs" on this site I thought it would be a book along the lines of Rick Bundschuh's "Passed Thru Fire" an excellent book on raising boys;it's that and more!
Mr. Otis starts out talking about how a boy develops his masculine gender identity and all of the struggles a boy must deal with along the way. He encourages women/moms to understand that men & women really are different, we're not the same!
Next he goes into manhood and its various stages as well giving lots of wise counsel to men in their journey of godly manhood and again, asking women/wives to understand us!
Mr. Otis also writes about how both our secular & Christian Cultures are very anti-male and how that can be fixed! I really apprecaite how Mr. Otis talks about how valuable men are, not putting us over women, but saying men have value just as women do. I've seen too much devalueing of men in our secular & Christian cultures.
A straight-talking antidote to today's ambivalent, amorphous culture Sep 6, 2007
Psychosocial rehabilitation specialist Don S. Otis presents Whisker Rubs: Developing the Masculine Identity, a manifesto about the obstacles today's postmodern society places upon young boys on the road to manhood, as well as adult men who have their masculinity derided, the importance of their roles as fathers and husbands lampooned by popular culture, and an endless smorgasbord of hedonistic cultural affirmations pulling them away from the qualities of faith, responsibility, and maturity vital to being a man and a capable father. Though Whisker Rubs is from a Christian perspective and affirms the importance of knowing God, its primary focus is a strong message to readers of all religious backgrounds: it's important to let boys be boys, and acknowledge their need for activity, challenge (often physical challenge), and to test themselves in a true adventure. It is also critical for boys to have positive guidance from their fathers and male role models to steer them on a a responsible, disciplines path and away from pitfalls ranging from narcissism to timidity to outright criminal behavior. Further chapters also explore the crushingly high divorce rate in America, and what factors constitute a successful marriage as well as what erodes an unsuccessful marriage. "Most men are romantics. They want the whole package every bit as much as woman do. There is just one problem: there is no perfect person. In fact, there is no perfect relationship because there is no completely unselfish person. Nor is there anyone who can perfectly fulfill every need, want, or desire a man has." A straight-talking antidote to today's ambivalent, amorphous culture that downplays both the needs and the responsibilities of boys and men.