Item description for Don't Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal by Dennis Linn, Francisco Miranda & Sheila Fabricant Linn...
Overview This illustrated book describes how to forgive in a healthy way by moving through the five stages of forgiveness. This is a forgiveness that renounces vengeance and retaliation, but does not passively acquiesce to abuse in any form.
Publishers Description Shows how to forgive in an active, healthy way by moving through a five step process that renounces vengeance and retaliation but is not not passive or self-abusive in any way.
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Studio: Paulist Press
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.21" Width: 7.36" Height: 0.43" Weight: 0.65 lbs.
Release Date May 1, 1997
Publisher Paulist Press
ISBN 0809137046 ISBN13 9780809137046
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More About Dennis Linn, Francisco Miranda & Sheila Fabricant Linn
Dennis, Sheila, and Matt Linn have given retreats and seminars on processes for healing in over fifty countries and in many universities and hospitals, including a course to doctors accredited by the American Medical Association. Dennis and Matt are co-authors of nineteen books, the last fourteen co-authored with Sheila. These books have sold over a million copies in English and have been translated into more than twenty different languages. Dennis and Sheila live in Colorado with their son, John, whom they are home and global-schooling. Matt lives in a Jesuit community in Minnesota.
Reviews - What do customers think about Don't Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal?
UNinspiring Mar 27, 2007
I don't understand the rave reviews of the Linn brothers work. I found this book to be dreadfully simplistic, almost "corny". I needed something much deeper. If you're looking for a quick read on healing, then this is your book.
A Prayerful Way To Forgive And Avoid Hurt Feb 23, 2006
DON'T FORGIVE TOO SOON is a title that can be a bit misleading. Is this a book from a Christian tradition? The love command of Christ implies not just forgiveness, but immediate forgiveness. Where does gradual forgiveness come into the picture? The premise of the book is also based on a somewhat questionable interpretation of Matthew 5:38-42 called "the two hands of forgiveness." So does this book have any merit? The answer is yes.
For one thing, those who will be most interested in this book are not people who have a hard time or an unwillingness to forgive. If anything the opposite is true. The book is addressed to people who seem to get into difficulties because they are too quick to forgive those ho have hurt them, thus adding to the hurt and often getting victimized time after time. In this slim volume, readers are encouraged to forgive, but are also given guidelines that will help them take charge of situations where powerlessness can often be the norm. Forgiveness is central in this book, but it does not come at the expense of the dignity we all share as God's creation.
The book discusses many ways to forgive, and the Linns freely share some of the hurts they have experienced personally and professionally and ways they have responded well and ways they could have better responded. They also offer two Ignatian style prayers exercises, one they call the focusing prayer and another based on the story to Emmaus.
I read the book when it was first published, and have used it in adult educational setting as well as in homilies. I've found that over all, people have been open to the Linns ideas, particularly the prayer exercises. Some of the scriptural interpretations have been viewed as ranging from unique and on target to somewhat farfetched, but nearly all have agreed that the book does offer ways to forgive and avoid being further hurt as well as ways we can be sensitive to the ways we sometimes intentionally hurt others and ways we have does o unintentionally.
A Path to Forgiveness Oct 24, 2005
We all want to forgive. The authors begin with this assumption but also with one that is not as readily embraced - it is a process. They proceed to explore helpful ways to move through the stages and dangerous self talk or advice within each of their articulated stages. Certainly among the most helpful books I have found on this topic :)
Very thoughtful and helpful clarification of forgiveness. Sep 16, 1999
This discussion of forgiveness and its relationship to the five stages of grief is very helpful to anyone seeking to resolve conflicts in relationships past and present. The book is useful in helping the reader discover deeper issues of unforgiveness and gives careful and helpful guidance as to how to resolve these issues. As a professional psychotherapist and Christian counselor, I found the insights meaningful and the entire book encouraging as to the hope it offers for healing hurts in relationships. Parents, partners, friends, spouses, teachers, counselors and others will benefit from the sage counsel and practical advice.
An excellent review of the process of forgiveness. Mar 20, 1999
This book reinforces the idea that forgiveness is a process, and shouldn't be entered into lightly or too soon. The use of Kubler-Ross's 5 stages of death provides an easy to understand framework for assessing where the reader might be in a current forgiveness process, and is also thought provoking for assessing one's general understanding of forgiveness and it's place in daily life. The book is easy to read, and follows philosophically the attitudes expressed by the authors in "Sleeping with Bread..." I highly recommend this book to families, counselors, and clergy, as well as to individuals looking for help with the difficult and growth-producing process of forgiveness.