Item description for Shadow Living... Paintings of Grief by Deborah Slappey Pitts...
Overview The enthralling sequel to I Feel Okay, shares an intimate story of survival during the first years of her husband's death. The reader is weaved into a personal world of anguish, torment, and loneliness as the author languishes through endless days and nights of grieving the loss of her husband to the silent killer disease, primary amyloidosis. Chronicles the perplexing stages of the grieving process and skillfully walks the reader through personal episodes of pain, depression, and unnerving despair. With God as her refuge and strength, the author emerges from the shadows of grief to live again and to become a beacon of inspiration to others, coupled with an unwavering commitment to help others find their passageway through the murky depths of grief to a place of healing and peace. You will discover an intimate account of grieving and survival, stages of the grieving process, and an amyloidosis update.
Publishers Description Grief is a universal phenomenon. Possibly every minute, every hour even every day of the year, someone is grieving the loss of a loved one. It can be the death of a spouse, a daughter, a son, a sister or a brother, even a grandparent, or a friend no matter what the relationship, no matter how close or how distant, grief rears its ugly head with merciless, menacing pain and with piercing precision. Sooner or later, grief tears through the clutches of time and leaves the griever saddled with the deafening silence of losing a loved one to death. Shadow Living...Paintings of Grief continues where author, Deborah Slappey Pitts paused in her debut book, I Feel Okay (May 2005), where she superbly describes her family's desperate attempt to find a physician who would help her husband, the late Clyde Slappey find a cure for the menacing primary amyloidosis disease. Pitts and Clyde made it to the Mayo Clinic, their place of hope, but sadly, Clyde dies within two weeks of receiving a life-saving heart transplant. Now in the enthralling sequel to I Feel Okay, Shadow Living...Paintings of Grief, Pitts shares her intimate story of pain and despair as she reaches through the darkest crevices of her shadowy world of grief, holding onto God s unchanging hand. Pitts describes how she grapples between two worlds her new reality of living in a world without her husband and a faux reality where she tries desperately to hold onto precious memories as husband and wife. Pitts prays earnestly to God to bring herhusband back to her and the children. But deep inside, Pitts knows her husband won t be coming back. Out of the depths of her agonizing despair of becoming a widow at age 40, Pitts makes a heartfeltfight to live again in a new world without the sunshine of her life. Her story is very powerful in content. The reader is consumed into Pitts shadowy world of grieving and empathizes with her anguish and despair through every intricate word. Pitts story of survival is for survivors around the world and her story instantly connects with readers as they witness her brave fight with grief. Pitts describes grief as a super ficialentity that takes a life of its own through suffering and pain. She instantly connects with her reader, capturing their heart while she meticulously describes the perplexing stages of grieving that she experiences during her first year living as a widow. Pitts recounts her pain-filled days and nights of crying out in the darkness, praying anxiously for God to console and protect her and her children. With God as her refuge and strength, Pitts emerges from the shadows of grief to a life of renewed hope. Now her mission is to serve as a beacon of light and inspiration of hope and healing to others. It's a must read an unforgettable story; It s a must read an unforgettable story;written with candor, soul, and love.
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Studio: Harobed House
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.41" Width: 5.63" Height: 0.78" Weight: 0.95 lbs.
Release Date Jan 1, 2007
Publisher Harobed House
ISBN 0978789709 ISBN13 9780978789701
Reviews - What do customers think about Shadow Living...Paintings of Grief?
Coming Through... May 19, 2008
Shadow Living: Paintings of Grief by Deborah Slappey Pitts is an honest, inside view of a woman and a family's struggle to get through to the other side when one loses a loved one. Ms. Pitts is harrowingly honest in her portrayal of how she felt when her husband died. The reader could literally feel the emotions and the pain. More importantly, however, the reader could also feel the hope.
Ms. Pitts provides us with the stages of grieving that one goes through when a spouse is lost to death, particularly at an early age. Her renderings allows one to understand that there will be anger, sadness, fear and shock and that sometimes one will feel all of these emotions at one time. We are also allowed to see how big a part faith can play in healing, emotionally. The reader is also given a complete view of her husband, Clyde Slappey as a complete person, as a man, a husband and a father. Her portrayal of Clyde made her loss even more poignant.
Shadow Living serves as an honest and spiritual guide to those who are going through or will go through the loss of a beloved family member. I recommend this book to all who have loved and lost someone dear to their heart.
Angelia Menchan APOOO BookClub
Living After the Death of a Loved One Apr 1, 2008
Imagine living life after the one person you love more than anything else died. SHADOW LIVING chronicles the thoughts and intimate emotions of Deborah Slappey Pitts after the death of her soul mate and husband, Clyde. Pitts offers a detailed account of the range of emotions and how she came to acknowledge and eventually begin to live again. This inspirational story will encourage you to make the most of everyday and celebrate the small things with those you love. Pitts gives words of advice and ideas for planning for the inevitable - death.
SHADOW LIVING is a brilliantly written narrative that offers rich description of emotions experienced by those left in the aftermath of death. The explanation of Amyloidosis disease, the recent research, and support groups serves to educate readers about the terrible disease. It is admirable how Pitts relies on God, hearing and reading of the Word, and works through grief therapy. After reading the book, I felt her pain and realize that we all experience grief differently; the important thing is that you keep trying every day. Thanks Deborah for sharing your story, you have provided a road map on how to live after death.
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Inspirational Feb 27, 2008
Shadow Living is a heartwrenching, inspirational story about a woman's journey through grief. Deborah Slappey Pitts is an excellent writer who is descriptive and spares no expense on the details of her husband's death and the effect his death had on her family. She also offers advice and helpful notes to those who have lost loved ones and are struggling wih grief. I would encourage everyone to read this book and to pick up her first novel (I Feel Okay) as well.
Extraordinarily written Feb 15, 2008
The author has written a heartfelt account of grieving during the first year after her husband dies of a rare disease. Her vivid description of her personal grief put me in the same room with her. I felt her pain. Shadow Living...Paintings of Grief is an amazing true story. I would suggest that you read her story for yourself. Most books I read just talk, but very few describe the moments. This one knocked a homerun twice over. Thank you for a beautiful, well written book about grief. October
Learning to Live On Dec 3, 2007
Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (11/07)
"Shadow Living...Paintings of Grief," tells of what it is like to lose a spouse. Deborah Slappey Pitts lost her husband to Amyloidosis disease. Pitts takes us through her personal experience of becoming a widow at forty-years of age. In telling her story, she reaches out to others who have gone, or are going, through the grieving process of losing a loved one. In addition to telling her personal story, she also discusses the stages of grief. I believe that this is incredibly important for people to read, so that they can understand the myriad of emotions that they will be experiencing.
When reading "Shadow Living," I discovered that it felt more like Pitts was in the room with me telling her story, than I was reading words. She vividly describes her experience in such a way that you are picturing, and feeling it, not just staring at words. It was very difficult not to tear up while reading her story. My heart went out her. She was a wife and a mother who all of a sudden had to learn to redefine her role.
I admired her for hanging on to her faith and putting God first. At times her prayers were heart wrenching. Having gone through the break up of a fifteen-year marriage myself, this grief brought back memories of my own grieving, and the moments where I begged God for things to be different. I truly believe that her incredible faith helped her survive through this ordeal. She also sought out help and went through the counseling process. When she entered into group therapy and heard other people's stories, she was able to connect to them and relate. She also experienced physical problems because of her emotional pain. It is really important for the grievers to know that this can happen and that if they don't care for themselves properly, they can really become ill.
The book is divided into several sections. Pitts' experience is separated into three parts. She also offers resources through endnotes, a recommended reading list, an update on Amyloidosis, references and a discussion guide. People that will benefit from "Shadow Living...Paintings of Grief," include those affected by Amyloidosis, people who have lost loved ones, and grieving groups. This book is a perfect tool for those in grief therapy, both individual and group. The groups would especially benefit from the discussion questions. Even though I was divorced instead of widowed, I found that I could relate to a lot of what Pitts went through after her husband passed on. The stages of grief were the same. She lost her husband physically and emotionally, I lost the dream of what I thought my husband was. Pitts definitely suffered a greater loss than mine; however, as I read, I felt that women going through divorces could also benefit from this book. The main thing we all have to learn is that life does go on and if you hang on to your faith and take care of yourself, it definitely does get better.