Item description for The Dirty Little Secret: Uncovering the Truth Behind Porn by Craig Gross & Carter Krummrich...
Overview In 2005 porn reached epidemic proportions and affected almost everyone. This book is about Craig Gross, a young pastor helping those inside the world of porn, and the stories, insights, and secrets he
Publishers Description Addiction to pornography has exploded to epidemic proportions, infiltrating churches and holding our pastors, friends, and family members prisoner. But no one---not even the church---is talking about this dangerous and destructive addiction. The Dirty Little Secret follows Pastor Craig Gross as he breaks the silence and begins his ministry XXXchurch.com, a website devoted to fighting pornography. As he meets people in the industry and those addicted to porn, Craig exposes the very real, human face of pornography and the destructive physical, emotional, and spiritual toll it takes. The Dirty Little Secret plainly reveals the addictive lure of pornography, explores the pain and brokenness it causes, and challenges us as individuals and as the church to talk about and openly fight pornography. Don t be tempted to keep this secret any longer. If this book won't make you roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty, then you need to check your pulse. ---Skip Mathews, president, Integrity Online"
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.5" Width: 5.52" Height: 0.53" Weight: 0.45 lbs.
Release Date May 1, 2006
Publisher Zondervan Publishing
ISBN 031027107X ISBN13 9780310271079
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More About Craig Gross & Carter Krummrich
Craig Gross is founder of Fireproof Ministries and XXXchurch.com. He is the author of several books, including Jesus Loves You . . . This I Know and Eyes of Integrity, and currently resides in California with his wife and two children. Steven Luff, MDiv, MA, is a registered marriage and family theraqpist intern. Since 2008, he has led sexual addiction recovery groups affiliated with XXXchurch.com. Steven is the creator of the X3Pure 30 Days to Purity online recovery program. Currently he sees clients and he blogs for the Faith and Sex Center in Los Angeles, California. Steven lives in Santa Monica with his wife and two children.
Craig Gross currently resides in Corona. Craig Gross was born in 1975.
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Reviews - What do customers think about The Dirty Little Secret: Uncovering the Truth Behind Porn?
Revolutionary! Jul 5, 2006
The information in this book changed my life! This is far more than a "how to" guide for resisting the poison that is porn. The telling of the real life interactions and infiltration of the porn industry with the love of Christ by Craig Gross and company will change your heart and forever alter the way you view this problem.
Hope for the hurting, or more of the same old thing? May 9, 2006
I first heard about the XXXChurch website a couple of years ago. It looked like an edgy idea by a young Christian man called to stand against porn in the Church. I applauded his courage for confronting the issue head-on, and liked that he leavened his stand with some humor. "Dirty Little Secret" is from Craig Gross, the founder of this organization. As the title suggests, porn is something the Church sweeps under the narthex rug. Since I wage my own battle against self-medication, I was interested in what he had to say.
"Dirty Little Secret" isn't bad. The author is passionately against porn, but not in a judgmental or holier-than-thou way. He and his cohorts set up booths at porn conventions to provide a way out for those who produce and act in adult movies. They also seek to help church leaders deal with their usage, since it has become almost epidemic in the pastoral community. That kind of "grace with teeth" is better than the legalistic and shame-based approach of most churches (when they aren't in denial, that is).
However, despite the author's good intentions, books like this one have a fatal flaw. They are big on showcasing porn's worst-case consequences, but short on providing solid ways of prevention and adequate solutions for addicts (or even dabblers). Like in war, no one gets into porn with the goal of becoming a casualty. Casual indulgers become blase after years of not even coming close to experiencing the hell of a raging porn addict. The more insidious consequences of dabbling, such as subtle effects on dating or marriage relations, should've merited more exploration. It seems that because porn is so easy to get (especially with the advent of the Internet), prevention has been abandoned in favor of focusing on treatment. The author discusses intensive isolation therapy, counseling, and accountability via friends and/or software. But like Mr. Gross, I've seen this stuff fail over and over again. At least he's honest about the shortcomings of these methods.
Is there hope for those trapped in porn? My adventures in sanctification have included counseling, doing ministry, healing services, memorizing Scripture, accountability, small groups, reading tons of books, and even dating/courting. The result? I'm not mired in addiction, and I have grown as a Christian (at least I hope so). However, the ugly truth about focusing on methods is that once you're done with them (or they are done with you), you're still you. If your Achilles heel(s) remain the same, then it's easy to become discouraged and tempted to retreat into familiar ways of medicating. What's worse, the Church will often let you go on your merry way. My experience with church leadership is that as a man, you are an asset as long as you have it "together." But once you're struggles are revealed and you are working through brokenness, you're a liability. Usually you get segregated from the "healthy" Christians and thrown into a recovery group, where the blind lead the blind and true healing is an ever-elusive goal. Some tout marriage as both a preventative and a solution. But Christian women get so freaked out about any hint of porn usage in one's past (never mind the present) that they aren't much help. However, I digress.
I'm reminded of the story Jesus told about casting out a demon. The demon wanders through dry places, and decides to return to the person it was ejected from. The creature finds its old home swept and in order. But nothing of substance is there to hinder its return, and it moves back in with seven other demons more vile than itself. In the end, the person is worse off than before. Yes, "Dirty Little Secret" shows that the "demon" of porn is bad. But there's not much about shaping one's character to avoid it, or how to fill the demon's old home in a more sanctified manner.
Ultimately, navel-gazing and bullet-point methods haven't worked for me or anyone else that I know of. Indeed, focusing on the sin and white-knuckling it may provide short-term "victory." But in the end this approach is an exercise in failure. Strugglers may need to simply hit bottom like the Prodigal Son, and then get picked up and put back together by a supportive community - if one can be found. For the long-term, perhaps an intense interpersonal ministry that gets our juices flowing in the direction of God and others (versus ourselves and our pet sin) is a solution. I hope that the search for healing is itself half of the battle, and that a merciful God will gird up his garment and run to meet us with love and succor. But so far I'm discouraged with how the Church deals with its more obviously wounded members.
At any rate, I salute "Dirty Little Secret" for spotlighting the problem of porn in the Church. I'm also impressed with the XXXChurch's ministry to those folks in the adult film industry. But I'm skeptical about the solutions it puts forth for the user of porn, whether casually or addictively. We've become immune to way-out cautionary tales and frustrated with tired old methodologies that make us "acceptable" but don't provide true change. A deeper way in Christ is needed, and I pray that the author perseveres toward that end in his ministry. So for now, I can only give a guarded, but hopeful, recommendation for "Dirty Little Secret."