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Overview RELCAIM THE STRENGTH AND ADVENTURE OF MANHOOD
Men today have locked horns with their toughest issue: reclaiming the full potential of manhood. But in the midst of the excitement-the meetings, rallies, seminars, and high-fives--is something vital missing? What gives manhood definition and meaning?
In The Silence of Adam, Dr. Larry Crabb and his colleagues, biblical scholar Don Hudson and counselor Al Andrews, offer a fresh look at how God designed men. They draw from neglected biblical data and their own professional experience to help us explore * manhood's lost vision * the problems of masculine community * the power of mentoring relationships
The Silence of Adam deals thoughtfully and honestly with men's ongoing struggles and exposes the difficulties they have in relationships. It presents the rich calling men have to reveal God in ways uniquely masculine. And it summons them beyond their paralyzing fear of failure to bold risk-taking, action, deep spirituality, and full--hearted living,
Publishers Description Men today have locked horns with their toughest issue: reclaiming the full potential of manhood. But in the midst of the excitement -- the meetings, rallies, seminars, and high-fives -- is something vital missing? What gives manhood definition and meaning? In The Silence of Adam, Dr. Larry Crabb and his colleagues, biblical scholar Don Hudson and counselor Al Andrews, offer a fresh look at how God designed men. They draw from neglected biblical data and their own professional experience to help us explore - manhood's lost vision - the problems of masculine community - the power of mentoring relationships -- The Silence of Adam deals thoughtfully and honestly with men's ongoing struggles and exposes the difficulties they have in relationships. It presents the rich calling men have to reveal God in ways uniquely masculine. And it summons them beyond their paralyzing fear of failure to bold risk-taking, action, deep spirituality, and full-hearted living.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.06" Width: 5.27" Height: 0.45" Weight: 0.32 lbs.
Release Date Mar 10, 1998
Publisher Zondervan Publishing
ISBN 0310219396 ISBN13 9780310219392 UPC 025986219390
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More About Lawrence J. Crabb, Larry Crabb & Al Andrews
Dr. Larry Crabb is a bestselling author, counselor, and psychologist who is known internationally not only through his many books, but also as a leading seminar and conference speaker for the past two decades. Some of his landmark books include "Inside Out, Finding God, The Marriage Builder, "and "Connecting. "He has been a professor at Colorado Christian University since 1989, and has also taught at Regent College, Grace Theological Seminary, and the University of Illinois. He had a private practice in clinical psychology for ten years. Larry's New Way Ministries serves churches through a variety of training opportunities in areas including spiritual direction, spiritual friendship, shepherding and leadership, and spiritual formation and counseling. Larry and his wife, Rachael, have two sons and two grandchildren and live in the Denver, Colorado area.
Reviews - What do customers think about Silence Of Adam?
Becoming a balanced Christian man - is it all on me? Jan 11, 2007
I've enjoyed a couple of Dr. Crabb's books, so I looked forward to his take on manhood in "The Silence of Adam." As expected, I was challenged and encouraged by his insights. However, I also felt frustrated by some of his perspectives (there are two coauthors who contribute their own personal stories of dealing with Adam's silence, but for simplicity's sake I'll cite Dr. Crabb as the author).
The theme of this book takes off from Adam's part in the Fall. Dr. Crabb claims that Adam's silence during Eve's temptation has haunted men down through the ages. Silence represents our fearful retreat from Biblical manhood into one of two extremes: neediness (a corruption of sensitivity) or toughness (a corruption of strength). Neediness equates to withdrawal and passivity, while toughness is exemplified by control and dominance. The ideal, as lived out by Christ, is a balance between sensitivity and strength. How is this balance achieved? I found some help with that, but experienced some misgivings as well.
On the one hand, I appreciated Dr. Crabb's call for a return to the Biblical basics of a God-centered life. I echo his frustration with bullet-point healing methodologies and self-help gurus with pat answers and principles to make life work our way. He calls this controlling and ultimately futile approach "Recipe Theology." Instead, Christian men should embrace "Transcendent Theology" that acknowledges the uncertainty of life and advocates a constant seeking of God. Dr. Crabb sums it up like this: "We don't believe the Bible provides a plan for making life work as we think it should. We think it offers a reason to keep on going even when life doesn't work that way (p. 13)." Amen. The ideal of persevering in God through the chaos of existence while investing in others is admirable. And I was uplifted by the transparency of all three authors, each of whom shared stories about their own struggles with fear and chaos.
However, I was a bit disappointed with some of Dr. Crabb's conclusions. First, I was put off by his descriptions of weak men vs. men of God. He provides many anecdotal examples of how the weak man errs on the side of either sensitivity or toughness. But the man of God appears to respond perfectly, internally and externally. This Zen-like attitude towards tribulation doesn't square with reality. If a situation doesn't prompt internal distress (like a dark night of the soul, for example), then why seek God about it? Isn't it possible that internal angst - and even failure - at any time in our life is part of the growth process and therefore glorifies God? Job was considered to be righteous, yet he displayed anguish and recrimination in his trial, and even demanded the right to cross-examine God. It took a face-to-face confrontation with Him before Job came to a new place of acceptance. Perhaps as with Job, things are going on behind the scenes that we don't know about or cannot comprehend.
That leads into my second issue. The author's answer to the fundamental question of, "how much is us, and how much is God?" seems to put the onus on us. Everything comes down to the choices we make in a difficult situation. I also believe in personal responsibility, but aside from some cursory discussion Mr. Crabb avoids emphasizing God's part in our growth or His transforming grace as applied to our sins. Doesn't His unknowable sovereign will figure into the proceedings? Can't His grace woo me away from my depravity and the fruits of the Holy Spirit change me in spite of myself? I would've liked to have seen more discussion of God's role in our transformation, especially since too much prodding toward right action and thought can lead to legalism and performance-based Christianity.
Overall, despite my 4-star leaning I have mixed feelings about "The Silence of Adam." I applaud Dr. Crabb's stand in favor of God-centered transcendent theology vs. me-centered recipe theology. I was also challenged by the author's focus on the relational aspect of Christianity, both with God and other people. These are two key elements of our faith that must come to the fore. However, I was disappointed by his focus on an unattainable male ideal and lack of emphasis on God's part in our sanctification. I certainly recommend reading "The Silence of Adam," but make sure you augment it with something like Philip Yancey's "What's So Amazing About Grace?"
Profound---At Times Overwhelmingly Thought Provoking Jul 3, 2006
I am a woman. I'm only on page 90-something, but I find this book to be profound. My personal experience tells me that men ARE too passive. Their silence is K I L L I N G their marriages, their children, and MEN's own spirits!! This is not meant to be judgmental, it is just my deep experience!!
My feelings as I read this book ranged from a feeling of awe as I recognized the truth of what Dr. Crabb wrote, to feeling like I wanted to weep and wail in despair as I recalled the pain consequences resulting from the silences of the men in my own life. At times I literally had to close the book and lay down and just ponder what I'd just read. At other times, my soul Y E A R N E D to hear the voice of men begin to break the codes of silence around the world that is permitting evil to exist and grow!
Dr. Crabb not only gave a penetrating analysis of what happened in Genesis, but his examples from other parts of the Bible seem to make amazing sense and seem to reveal UNCOMMON insight into the silence of other men in the Bible. One of the co-authors, Don Hudson, is a professor teaches Hebrew at Western Seminary in Seattle, Washington. I can't imagine Professor Hudson would knowingly let Dr. Crabb come up with a wrong interpretation just to sell the book!!!
From reading this book, I've come to believe that men A R E indeed to speak into situations like God did!!! I see it all so much more clearly now!!! Now that I see these behaviors of the characters who remained silent, I cannot not see!! Once you know the truth, you can't unknow it!! How do you explain these silences!! If you have a better insight, please tell us!!!
I haven't finished the book yet, but I believe that Dr. Crabb is going to indicate that while a man may not always know what to do or say, he should AT THE VERY LEAST SPEAK TO GOD about the situation and not be silent or passive!
I wish that every pastor in America would read this book and would do some heavy preaching on it. I hope that more men will read this book and review it.
The Bible does NOT record that Eve SPOKE to Adam, but that she GAVE him to eat. Heeding the voice of your wife," was the translation. I wonder what the original Hebrew said? Now T H A T would be worth investigating!!!
I believe we can infer that she at least HANDED him the piece of fruit. When she handed him the piece of fruit, why did he not REFUSE it? He at least could have DONE something, like knock the fruit out of her hand. At some point he would have NEEDED to SAY or DO SOMETHING!!! Why did he NOT do this?
I am single, but if I had a husband, I would EXPECT him to say something if I was about to do something wrong. I may have a free will, but as my leader, he has the AUTHORITY and OBLIGATION to tell me he thinks I'm going in the wrong direction. Likewise the wife, also has the authority to voice her concerns. She cannot force her husband to do right, but she certainly SHOULD speak up. It's a two way-street. Each spouse regularly needs the feedback and input of the other. That's just one one of the many unique dimensions of marriage.
I don't sense that the authors are bashing men. They are just rare individuals, who had the courage to SEE and REVEAL what they have seen!!
If I could afford to, I'd buy this book for every man I've ever known and give a copy to every man I'll ever meet in the future.
This book is a rare gem, and sadly it will probably go largely unread and unappreciated. I applaud all the authors for their UNCOMMON courage to be so transparent and BREAK the SILENCE! May God bless them, and may this book help to change the lives of everyone who reads it and those that they love!!
Great book. A must for any mature man Aug 9, 2005
Larry Crabb and his associates describe parts of how they were raised and lived. By example they discovered the world's way of being a man, the wrong way. As they discover the real meaning of being tough and in control, their lives taka a change.
Starts a little slow, but the wait is worth it. In depth, insightful and a marvelous guide for any man and especially one who wants to fulfill his calling.
"...because you harkened unto your wife". May 24, 2005
Is the typical male a non-communicating oblivious dolt? Do we men grunt and make bodily noises as proof of this? Would men rather sit around and do nothing? Do we care about nothing but ourselves?
I think not, and history bears out the true nature of man; he wants to make life better for all of us, men and women. Larry Crabb has done nothing but make men out to be the "fall" guy for relationship ills. This "interpretation" of the true biblical story of Adam, Eve, and the fall, is a dangerous addition to the myth of man as the blubbering fool ideology in our world today. Why Crabb ignores the free will, and personal choice, that our "parents" both enjoyed, is beyond me. Eve had a choice and Adam had no responsibility to either stop her, lord over her, or to prevent her from doing anything. She knew the rule God had told Adam, and that was enough. The serpent even questioned her, and she responded that she did know what God told Adam. To say that Adam should have stopped her is total fabrication. As one reviewer mirrored, God did not judge Adam because he didn't step into the chaos, God's own words in Genesis 3:17 were, "...because you harkened unto your wife". Get it straight Mr. Crabb, God spoke and you ignore His words! Crabb's assertion is ludicrous. He takes nothing and builds a case from it.
What this book does is add to the idea that man is a fool. It places women above men and is fuel to the fire that is burning over all the earth; women are taking the upper hand and adding to the damage Eve alone is responsible for initiating. Today, women are continuing the destruction of marriage, nee relationship, through birth control, so called abortion "rights", using the power of their careers to divorce their spouses at an unprecedented rate, and through psychological distortions such as saying any man who gets angry, or ever yells, is an abuser and should be gotten rid of and needs therapy or drugs.
If you look at the bible and check Genesis 3:6, Eve made her choice because it made her look good, it would leave a good taste in her mouth, and she would look wise; this doesn't sound like a person unable to make a choice. It is a narcissistic perspective. It doesn't sound like Adam was supposed to butt in. Adam was innocent, until he CHOSE to eat the fruit at Eve's urging. Why should Adam have doubted the beautiful creature God gave him? Women have inherited the predisposition Eve had; to be superior in men's eyes, as women today are doing. God made us equal. Our sin is equal in every way, but our behavior is not. Women were, and are, still deceived. This deception has become the norm, and men are paying the price for it. More women today make more money than men than at any time in history. There are more women in power positions than ever; we may see a woman president in our lifetime. Women today; don't want to have natural childbirth and suffer the pain God told them they would have as evidenced by the rise in C-Sections, don't want to raise their own children by using nannies, and would rather work than be a mother and wife at home because it is "embarrassing" to be a "stay at home mom". These societal ills and more are all fallout of Eve's sin. To say that men, as Crabb asserts, can change the world through intervention in the chaos is absurd. The path was set in the Garden, and women are ruling the roost, in contradiction to God's judgment of Eve in Genesis 3:16,"...and he will rule over you". Well my fellow earthlings, our country has let the revolt against God's command, and women are in charge. Eve tried to show superiority to not only God, but Adam as well. Adam's sin was to disobey God, but not for the same reasons Eve ate. Adam was seduced by Eve, and ate the fruit; Eve simply continued the deception of the Serpent. Today, women do not want equality, they want to control it all, and their choices are as damaging as Eve's was in the Garden. Women today also demand that men be like them; that is absurd! Crabb has bought into this psychology of a "feminized" man. Dr. Dobson discusses this in "Bringing up Boys". We were built differently than women, and always will be. The job of being a relationship warrior belongs to women! That is what the word "helpmeet" means. Women are supposed to be above the chaos and be there for their man, and not only did Eve fail, but women are failing miserably today at the role God created them for. Eve created the chaos, and her daughters are following in her steps. Men cannot reverse that. Yes men need to be more proactive, but from what we all have seen, when men try to step into the chaos of relationships, they are chastised as being controlling and manipulative by women. Sorry Mr. Crabb, you have it in reverse, women need to stop creating chaos and be what God created them for, a warrior of relationship.
I recommend women, and men, read a realistic view of men in a book by Shaunti Feldhahn of Atlanta, called "for women only; what you need to know about the inner lives of men". She has it right. Thank God that Mrs. Feldhahn sees men for what they are; not the myths most women, and Larry Crabb, assert are true.
As a Christian man, I refuse to believe the lies perpetrated on men by writers, who I am certain have issues from their past including guilt and shame, telling us men we are fools and not willing to "step into the chaos". If this were so, how did we get the advances in our world scientifically, or even the development of our own country. The founding fathers of this country stepped into the chaos of England to come here to find freedom. Most relationship books are written by men. How could that be so if men did not want to face the chaos? Not only is this notion of a failure to step into the chaos not biblical, but it is damaging to all men who I know in my heart, do not want chaos in their relationships. God tells us to "stand firm" in His Truth. He repeatedly tells us He will deal with the chaos in His Word. It is not our job to step into the chaos, but to stand firm in faith, trusting God to deal with the chaos. Only God can make order of the chaos. We men are to simply walk in that faith. Women need to do the same and quit trying to force their narcissistic ways of Genesis 3:6 upon the world.
Sins of Omision Apr 9, 2005
We all recognize in ourselves (as sinners) the ability to openly sin (sins of commission), and also to fail to act when we ought to have acted. The latter are sins of omission. Was Adam guilty of this latter type of sin when he watched as Eve ate the forbidden fruit? No. Adam retained his innocence until he himself ate the forbidden fruit. This is clear when God indicted Adam after the fall. Genesis 3:17: Then to Adam He said, "Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, `You shall not eat of it': "Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life...." God did not charge Adam with failing to stop Eve from sinning. In fact Adam did not have the right to interfere with Eve's free choice. To see what she was doing was surely an agony to him. Afterwards, Adam had the terrible choice of chosing to obey God instead of the woman God had given him, whom he deeply loved, knowing full well what he was doing--"Eve was deceived, but Adam was not deceived and became the transgressor." Eve would have to stand or fall on her own before God as each of us must in the ultimate sense. We can not attribute sinful irresponsibility to Adam BEFORE he himself fell, though it is clear that after his fall plenty has gone wrong with all of us. Adam remained innocent until he himself chose to eat the forbidden fruit, seduced, as it were, by his wife.