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Overview Helps get single men and women into the dating market and into dating shape through a series of soul-searching questions about beliefs, fears, fantasies, false religion, and excuses, followed by practical exercises to propel them on the road to fun and fulfillment. Original.
Publishers Description It stinks, doesn t it. But what can you do to fix it? More than you ve ever imagined. You can put an end to the datelessness. Starting today---right now---you can begin a journey that will bring fun and interesting people into your life, broaden your experience of others and yourself, and lead you toward that date of all dates---a date worth keeping. This book is for YOU if . You want to get more dates or better dates. . You wonder where the good ones are. . You keep repeating the same old cycle in your dating life and want to change it. . You wonder why people who aren t as nice as you get all the dates. . You re attracted to the wrong kind, while the right kind lack the chemistry. . You re waiting for God to bring you the right person---and you ve been waiting an awfully long time. . You wonder what it is about you that fails to attract dates. With over ten years of experience personally coaching singles on dating, Dr. Henry Cloud shares his proven, very doable, step-by-step approach to overcoming your sticking points and getting all the dates you could want. The results speak for themselves. Filled with true-life examples you ll identify with instantly, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping will prove its worth to you many times over in the exciting months ahead."
Citations And Professional Reviews How to Get a Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating in Six Months or Your Money Back by Henry Cloud has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
Christianity Today - 03/01/2011 page 48
Ingram Advance - 02/01/2005 page 80
Library Journal - 02/15/2005 page 142
CBA Retailers - 03/01/2005 page 36
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.12" Width: 5.48" Height: 0.67" Weight: 0.44 lbs.
Release Date Feb 14, 2005
Publisher Zondervan Publishing
ISBN 0310262658 ISBN13 9780310262657 UPC 025986262655
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More About Henry Cloud
Dr. Henry Cloud is a popular speaker, psychologist, co-host of the nationally broadcast New Life Live! radio program, and co-founder of the Cloud-Townsend Clinic and Cloud-Townsend Resources. He is the author of many books, as well as co-author of the 2003 Retailers Choice Award-winning God Will Make a Way and the Gold Medallion Award-winning Boundaries (over 1 million copies sold). He maintains a private practice in Newport Beach, California, andlives with his wife and two children in Los Angeles."
Henry Cloud currently resides in Los Angeles, in the state of California.
Reviews - What do customers think about How To Get A Date Worth Keeping?
Fantastical Book! (With One ***CONFUSING*** Chapter) Jan 3, 2007
Dr. Cloud does a fantastic job of de-mythologicalizing the common culturally and religiously promoted, yet self-defeating, views of dating. He explains why a lot of our societies practices & beliefs on dating promote failure in finding good dates, and even a potential mate. Also, he carefully describes unhealthy relationship and male/female interactions. For example, he very tactfully explains that when someone expresses an interest in you, but then backs right off if you reciprocate, then that person isn't relating to you in a healhty way anyway (s/he may be unintentionally, unwittingly, or perhaps even intentionally leading you on to make herself/himself feel desirable-OR may not know of any other way of relating to persons of the opposite sex). Therefore, your "relationship" with him/her is not healhty either, so if it fails, we needn't be sad, since nothing was gained, nothing lost. The one and ONLY caveat in this book. There is a very confusing chapter, chapter 28, in which Dr. Cloud attempts to explain that there is a very normal, natural, sinless, and yet desirable degree of physical attraction to which we are entitled to enjoy and appreciate that is not sinning. He suggests that we shouldn't feel guilty for physical sexual attraction, implying we will not at all be condemned when we are judged. Huh? Exactly. I hate to say it, but Dr. Cloud fails miserably in his attempt to de-confuse people who may not know the difference between God given, yet harmless, physical attraction, and sinful lustful attraction. Nowhere in his book does he clarify where attraction ends & lust begins. He does state not all sexual attraction is sin alleviating much "guilt". Therefore he still earns 5/5 but a clearer redo of chapter 28 is needed.
Such insight Oct 28, 2006
I must honestly say that this book revolutionized my outlook on dating. Unlike other books written about dating by Christian authors, Cloud acknowledges the workings of the human mind throughout the book, a true benefit of his psychological knowledge. He raises all completely valid points, the most eye-opening of which for me was, an analogy of Tiger Woods. It read something to the effect of, "Tiger Woods had the goal of winning more major tournaments than any golfer in history. What if he would have said, 'The only tournaments I will play in will be major tournaments'? That's absurd. So why do people insist on dating only people they see themselves marrying?" That really hit home for me, because for so long I fell into the trap of thinking that dating is about marriage, when Cloud points out that it is about meeting new and interesting people, having fun, and learning much more about yourself in the unique environment which dating alone can provide. I wholeheartedly recommend this book for any single person, Christian or not.
Unlike a lot of other dating books I've read, Cloud's philosophies actually make logical and practical sense versus those of other authors (ie: "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"). I really cannot say enough good about this book, nor adequately summarize the profound truths therein. It is an easy read, entertaining, and eye-opening. You will not regret taking the time to read this book.
Good Book/Not so good Book~Still love the authors though! Aug 19, 2006
I've read many of the New Life Guys' books and they have been a big part of my own growth in the past several years.
This book, however, wasn't one of the best and quite frankly, even though everyone seems to sing its praises, I don't think most single Christians really think about the implications behind the basic concepts of the book.
Of course as a leader of a singles ministry I wholly affirm Cloud's idea of contentedness in Jesus FIRST,(Matthew 6:33 ('seek first the kingdom of God, and all these things will be added unto you'), that of course you can't stay in your home & wait for the fedex man, that your traffic patterns must be changed, that internet dating for many people is the way to go, etc etc etc....
I, too, can be a disgruntled single Christian woman wondering where all the decent, Christlike single men are! LOL. I also feel for the Christian men who feel the same way...
BUT I can't help but wonder what Jesus would tell us (since the Bible never clearly addresses the issue of 'dating' in itself) about all this 'casual' dating, breaking hearts, giving others the wrong idea, and generally treating dating so lightly. So, can't we just call it... FRIENDING?? or building strong friendships that would LEAD to dating relationships??
It takes a very strong grounded, emotionally mature individual to be able to be clear on what their expectations are of a person in a dating relationship. For many of us, that doesn't happen overnight and we need a supportive community around us to help build us up--because like it or night, MOST NOT ALL of us fall into the prey as opposed to predator category, follower not leader, lower management not CEO.
Do you know of a single Christian who is willing to wait for the best God has for them? OR are they all very anxious to date and be married and have kids, no matter what the cost?
Not to mention, WHY would Cloud (still dig ya!)even suggest dating someone who's not living for Christ? Again, in my experience, why risk it? Why risk becoming involved/attracted to someone who can weigh you down spiritually? Believe me, IT WILL. It did for me. Several times!
Heck, even Solomon experienced this: "Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father." (I Kings 11:1-4)
Our world, and even many of our churches, say that having a romantic love in our lives is a must, even if the "pickings" are slim. Wisdom says that we reserve the affections of our heart only for one whose commitment to the Lord and keeping His Word matches our own.
Sound hardcore? Here's hard core: Try long-term relationships w/someone not with you in your JC faith walk who you hope will become spiritually stronger. THAT'll mess you up.
All I'm sayin is don't settle. God has your moves covered when you honor him. The book has some good basic concepts. Definitely don't expect that he will bring the person to your doorstep or exterminating your house from termites. But don't treat 'dating' so lightly either.
Wow ... Permission to Go on an Endless Dating Bonanza Jul 14, 2006
I loved this book! My girlfriend gave it to me on Valentine's Day and wow ... it was brilliant! Values-oriented dating is wonderful and there truly are plenty of fish out there - just go on the site. Honestly... dating that is light and innocent and with these principles in mind can be a positive learning experience. Stay true to your values and never settle.
Great Book! Jul 6, 2006
This is a fantastic book...very enlightening. If you are completely stuck in the dating scene and getting nowhere I highly recommend this book.