Item description for From High Heels to Bunny Slippers: Surviving the Transition from Career to Home (Capital Lifestyles) by Christine Conners...
Psychotherapist, mother, and author Christine Conners never doubts that the decision of a professional woman to stay home with her young children is the right one. In From High Heels to Bunny Slippers, she supports their decision to personally care for their children with compelling new research on childcare and its potential negative effects on young children, as well as her own firsthand experience as a co-founder of the NASA child development centers. Unlike previous books aimed at this growing readership, Conners recognizes and addresses mothers' adjustment problems that, like any major life event, arise from the decision to quit your job and stay home. She offers tools and strategies that gently lead the professional woman from the challenge of her work world into the new challenges of parenting full-time. She sympathizes, as a stay-at-home mother herself, with the immediate frustrations of loss of personal identity, financial difficulties, depression, and marital discord. As a mental health professional, she offers her proven techniques for forming a strong new identity as a parent when you leave your career, for addressing financial woes through part-time work and money-saving strategies, for overcoming social isolation, depression, anger, and stress, and for finding personal fulfillment during this special time with your young children.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.8" Width: 5.9" Height: 0.5" Weight: 0.55 lbs.
Release Date Mar 28, 2006
Publisher Capital Books
ISBN 1933102144 ISBN13 9781933102146
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More About Christine Conners
Having sold more than 100,000 copies of their outdoor cooking books, Tim and Christine Conners are experienced campers, backpackers, and outdoor chefs and the authors of The Scout's Outdoor Cookbook, Lipsmackin' Backpackin', and Lipsmackin' Vegetarian Backpackin'. The Conners have twice served as judges for Scouting magazine's prestigious national camp food cooking contest. Learn more at www.booksbyconners.com.
Christine Conners currently resides in Cincinnati Savannah, in the state of Ohio.
Reviews - What do customers think about From High Heels to Bunny Slippers: Surviving the Transition from Career to Home (Capital Lifestyles)?
One woman's diatribe Jul 28, 2008
I bought this book to obtain advice on transitioning from career to staying at home. The first two chapters of this book are a diatribe about how awful day care is for your child. As a woman contemplating leaving the work force, I expected more direction from this book about my feelings. My children are actually well cared for in their day care situation. For me, it is not about the lack of quality of care; it is whether or not I personally want to quit my job. This book is not for someone who has already returned to the work place. It has a few minor points, but honestly, I bought two other books that are not so cut throat about the child care situation. Skip this one and get a different one.
I LOVED this book! Jun 20, 2008
All I wanted to do after I had my first child was to stay at home with her. As my family situation afforded it I was finally able to do so when she was 10 months old. I read this book in my second week at home with her - while my husband was overseas at his new job - and I was holding down the whole fort at home. And I found it so helpful, and I was inspired by the outlook and helpful insights into ways to deal with issues which will be on our horizon soon.
I imagine that I will go back to work when my children are older, but it makes me feel so good to be home right now, even if the transition presents itself as an adjustment for me and my previous corporate/career - minded way of life. It hasn't been easy, but I feel it is worth it, and this book made that clear and doable for me. Since I have been home my daughter who has always been small, has started eating like a champ, and she is getting over her separation anxiety.
Several other reviews discuss bias, but I would encourage any mother who is considering this major decision - to go ahead and read the book, and then do some research on what these readers consider bias before making an educated decision. The author is a psychotherapist and counselor with a master's degree in Marriage and Family Counseling, and she was a career woman when she established the first day care center for NASA. She is a mother of four, she has no "bias" unless it is one that is in the best interest of her own children.
I myself believe that there is nothing wrong with a woman contributing to the financial health of their families, and I would encourage them to do so. But I also believe that we can do so in very creative ways - after all, we're women!! We can do anything.
Misleading title. Mar 29, 2008
The title is misleading. This book offers very little useful advice about how to make a transition from career to home. Mainly it is the author's rambling affirmation of her choice to stay home. The main focus of the book is presenting evidence that children's lives are damaged if they are not raised by a stay-at-home mother. The author is very passionate about this topic and this theme dominates the book. The chapters are laced with other random advice, for example: Offer your husband sex to get help with chores. Buy used clothes to save money. Don't give your kids positive reinforcement when they fuss. This book had no special insights.
Not nearly enough on the transition to staying at home! Mar 19, 2008
This book purports to be about the transition from career woman to stay-at-home mother, but what it's really about is justifying the author's lifestyle choices.
Although I don't use strangers as babysitters or daycare, I found her discussion of daycare to be very biased. She mainly uses scare tactics, such as tales of children being abandoned or nearly molested by the babysitter, and controversial comparisons of violence and intelligence between children in daycare and those who stay with their mothers. She also is opposed to having other relatives care for one's child, which I found strange.
While she claims that women should embrace their nature of taking care of children, breastfeeding is depicted negatively in at least one example (where she is at the doctor and her milk comes down, leaving her wet with what's described as sour milk), and she suggests that breastfeeding women keep formula on hand. Her stories of her own post-partum weight retention and untidiness could have been expressed more clearly and in a way that suggested some solutions.
I also found her rants about "discipline" to be totally out of place. She insists that she is a psychologist who knows her stuff and therefore is qualified to inform you that if you don't use her behaviorism-based "discipline" plan, you will be in a world of trouble. She shares a story about ignoring her screaming 18-month old strapped in a shopping cart, until he "learned" that that would not get him any attention. (Let's all hope we don't shop at the same stores as the author.) The bottom line is, it's sad that a book on mothers misses the point and becomes a book about her approach to parenting. And her view is made very clear -- put up the reward chart, trot out the punishments, embrace behaviorism in its entirety, or woe to you! The instructions to readers to "reward" our husbands with sex, and that every woman needs to hire a maid, are also out of place, particularly because of the way she suggests them.
I found this book to be disturbingly off-topic and disappointing.
Ridiculous biased views Feb 16, 2008
If you're OK with feeling guilty about anyone besides you or your spouse caring for your children before they go off to college then this book is for you. I recently left work to stay at home with my 1 year old baby. I had hoped this book would help me with perspective on leaving my career and finding fulfillment and balance in staying home. Instead this book was full of ridiculous biased views. The author cites several examples of parents who left their children with caregivers/daycares/babysitters only to find their children were raped, abused, or belittled. This book details very specific and disturbing examples which are extrapolated to all caregivers. Other extreme views in this book: pets are bad; buy second-hand clothes to save money; don't think about going back to work until your kids are well into teen years or you are selfish and destroying their future; get your man to help with chores by using sex -- Quote p. 109: "So how do we get our man to help? Sex, of course." Not helpful at all. FYI - the author, Christine Conners, has also written a book called "Lipsmackin' Vegetarian Backpackin'." Uh, OK. Wish I knew this before I bought the book.