Item description for The Open Adoption Book: A Guide to Adoption without Tears by Bruce M. Rappaport & Rappaport...
Overview In an open adoption, both the birthparents and adoptive parents are actively involved in all phases of the process. The successes of open adoption--now considered to the the healthiest (and fastest) form of adoption--have lifted it into the mainstream. Interweaving personal stories with answers to the questions most frequently asked about the process, this informative book is designed to help all parties overcome the anxieties often associated with adoption.
Publishers Description Updated for a New Paperback Edition, the Definitive Guide to Open Adoption, by the founder of the Open Adoption Movement The exploding popularity of open adoption today underscores what adopting parents, birthparents, and many adoption experts now maintain: Open adoption is the healthiest, most humane, and fastest method available. It's better for the birthmother, because she (not lawyers or social workers) decides the future of her child. It's better for children, because they're raised without the shroud of secrecy and stigma that accompanies most closed adoptions. And it's better for adopting parents, because it dramatically shortens the time it takes to obtain a baby, from an average of seven years to under one year. As director of one of the country's leading open adoption agencies and founder of the first nationwide network of open adoption organizations, Bruce Rappaport has facilitated thousands of successful open adoptions and acquired an intimate understanding of the most common and heartfelt concerns of parents seeking to adopt a baby. Interweaving personal stories and real-life experiences of adopting parents, birthparents, and adopted children, he answers the questions clients most frequently ask: * What is an open adoption? How does it differ from traditional adoption? * Will I ever feel like a real parent if my child's biological mother knows I'm raising her child? Will she interfere? * What if the birthmother changes her mind after the adoption? * How long will it take to get a child? Documenting answers with extensive personal experience and research, Dr. Rappaport paints a reassuring yet realistic picture of the open adoption process. The result is a highly informative, deeply moving book that will help many people realize the greatest joy life can offer.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.26" Width: 5.52" Height: 0.51" Weight: 0.54 lbs.
Release Date Jan 12, 1998
ISBN 0028621700 ISBN13 9780028621708
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More About Bruce M. Rappaport & Rappaport
Bruce M. Rappaport, Ph.D., is founder and Executive Director of the Independent Adoption Center in Pleasant Hill, California, and founder of the National Federation for Open Adoption Education. A nationally known expert on open adoption, he has worked in education, counseling, infertility, and adoption for more than twenty years and has been interviewed on these subjects by "Nightline," CNN, "The Today Show," The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and elsewhere. Dr. Rappaport lives in Oakland, California, with his daughter.
Bruce M. Rappaport currently resides in the state of California.
Reviews - What do customers think about The Open Adoption Book: A Guide to Adoption without Tears?
Dated but good Jan 20, 2008
This book is a little dated, but it was very informative. Not much has changed in the Open Adoption world since this book was written.
A good although biased review of open adoption May 6, 2006
First, I'm not sure where the 'guide to adoption without tears' come from, but that being said this is still a good book for people who have doubts about open adoption, so they can find out the good advantages of it. That being said, I believe that the book is too biased sometimes and not very objective.
Still a very good read for people wanting to know more about open adoption.
Not a new edition! Apr 15, 2004
The back cover of this book and this site's data say that this is a revised edition- not so! The Copyright date on the inside still states 1992. All that's new here is it's a pb edition with a new cover and the exact same chapters and page count.
No such thing as adoption without tears Sep 15, 2003
The Open Adoption Book is A Guide to Adoption Without Tears. I want to live on the planet Dr. Rappaport resides on and so do the tens of thousands of women in the United States who surrender babies every year for adoption. The tears never stop, whatever adoption practice the children were placed under. Read Merry Bloch Jones, Birthmothers and you'll see "the amputation of the heart." Rappaport describes open adoption as though it were a rose garden in which "...close relationships between the adoptive parents and birthparents become almost casual or routine, just as they would be in a biological family. The sense of normalcy is striking" (p. 120). Yes, of course, this may be the case with some open adoption arrangements, but Dr. Rappaport writes that "most open adoption families" consider the presence of the birthparent(s) "just a normal and routine part of their everyday lives." We do not have longitudinal studies that support this view, and common sense tells us that it cannot be true of most open adoption arrangements. We learn in a see-saw of research papers that many birthmothers report that if they had to do it over again they would not have chosen adoption but raised the children themselves. Some would even have chosen abortion over adoption. Mothers relinquishing a child for adoption often tend toward more grief symptoms, especially if the adoption is an open one, than parents who had lost a child to death. Studies show that many mothers using open adoption often feel more socially isolated, express more difficulty with normal everyday life, feel more despair, and express more dependency than their counterparts using confidential adoptions. Dr. Rappaport's book was published in 1992, but meanwhile we do have more data available. We learn from the largest longitudinal study (720 individuals) conducted by Harold D. Grotevant and Ruth G. McRoy on the full range of adoptive openness, (Openness in Adoption, Exploring Family Connections. Sage 1998): "The clearest policy implication of our work is that no single type of adoption is best for everyone." These authors warn that the long-term impact of openness for all parties in the adoptive kinship network is not known and longitudinal research is necessary to answer this question. Most importantly, the long-term impact of openness on the children is as yet unknown. In fully disclosed open adoption, the child is continually reminded that she has two mothers. This "insistence of differences" is a vulnerability in open-adoption families which professionals and laypersons are concerned about. David H. Kirk's Adoptive Kinship Theory predicts that openness in adoption imposes strains on all parties in the adoption triad as a result of role ambiguity. In their study Openness in Adoption, New Practices, New Issues, (Praeger, 1988) McRoy, Grotevant and White suggest that "The child may be more likely to feel that he is `matched' with his adoptive parents, if he or she is not constantly reminded of the contrast between birthparents and adoptive parents." The authors suggest that Semi-open adoptions (no personal contact between birthmothers and adoptive parents but non-identifying letters through the agency) tend to minimize problems regarding role expectations of adoptive parents and birthparents. Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?
A must read for anyone considering Open Adoption! Dec 21, 1999
My husband and I are in the very beginning stages of looking into adoption. We were not aware of "open" adoption, until I ran across this book. Both of us were leary, but the book explained open adoption in such detail that we were true believers. The Open Adoption Book not only explains open adoption, but all avenues of adoption to help you dicide on what is best for you and your family. It is written in languange that is understandable and easy to read. I think this book is a must read for anyone considering open adoption.