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Overview "How far can I go? What are the repercussions of a physical premarital relationship?" The bestselling author of "The True Measure of a Woman" tackles these tough questions and helps readers move past "rules" to the beauty of relationships.
How far can I go? It's the question of a generation wanting straight answers. Often the very questions we ask reveal our hearts better than anything else. In "Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry," Lisa Bevere tackles these tough issues by moving us from rules to relationship. There is no question we need a renewal of purity, but what we're doing is not working.
How far can you go? Ask yourself: What do you ultimately want? Immediate and temporary gratification that wanes with the passage of time? Or passion and exclusive intimacy that endures and intensifies?
God wants to move us beyond the restraint of the law (which arouses sin) and plant us into a garden of longing -- where our sexuality and passion is carefully guarded and cultivated until the time for its awakening. This is a book for every daughter in waiting and every woman who has never known desire in her life and marriage.
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Studio: Thomas Nelson
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9" Width: 6" Height: 0.6" Weight: 0.65 lbs.
Release Date Apr 16, 2002
Publisher Thomas Nelson
ISBN 0785269894 ISBN13 9780785269892
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More About Lisa Bevere
Lisa Bevere es una conferencista internacional, autora de exitos de ventas y copresentadora del programa de television The Messenger, el cual se transmite en mas de 200 paises. Ella y su esposo, John, quien tambien es un exitoso autor y orador, fundaron el ministerio Messenger International en 1990, con oficinas en Colorado, Australia y el Reino Unido. Lisa y su esposo tienen cuatro hijos varones y un nieto.
Lisa Bevere currently resides in Colorado Springs Palmer Lake P.
Reviews - What do customers think about Kissed The Girls And Made Them Cry?
The Patriarchal Cult of Female Sexual Purity: Not for Modern Society Dec 13, 2006
I received this book as a gift and read it out of curiosity to see what the Christian fundamentalist community had to say about sex.
I'm continually astounded that contemporary people fail to comprehend the significance of the social and historical contexts in which the Old and New Testament were written. The concept of female sexual purity, while marketed as a moral injunction, is in actuality merely a way of insuring legitimacy of offspring in an era when people had no access to birth control, did not understand female fertility and the concept of once-monthly silent ovulation, and had only a rudimentary grasp of the mechanics of conception - conflated with religious law. The one-size-fits-all, "just say no" approach to human sexuality, while appropriate for minor children whose moral development, discernement, and life-experiences have not caught up developmentally with their fertile physiologies is a resounding non-answer to adults, who must either marry, or by default be automatically condemned to a sexless life of involuntary celibacy - or suffer "automatic damnation" should they elect to experience a healthy, adult sexuality outside of marriage. It is virtually impossible to cultivate a healthy realtionship to one's burgeoning sexuality, neither unduly mystifying it nor unduly profaning it, in a religious culture of arbitrary suppression, guilt, secrecy and shame based on anitquated notions of female sexuality. A marriage ceremony is not a permanent blanket endowment - but rather, a daily, ongoing process of re-dedication to the sacred intent of the relationship. Marriage in and of itself neither automatically "sanctifys" nor renders consensual each sexual encounter - our civil law recognizes that rape can occur even within marriage. Likewise, who may realistically deny the transcendent deep communion and love which may be present between those who are unmarried ?
Didn't someone famous say "Let those who are without sin cast the first stone ?" ...
As for the author, the writing is clumsy and the observations are trite and puerile. I was curious about her qualifications and was appalled: no formal theological education, no background in counselling or marital therapy - in short, the awkwardly-written exhortations and opinions of one woman. How did this get published ?
The power of purity ... Dec 4, 2006
This book is about:
How to gain freedom from all the lies you've been told about your sexuality.
And since author Lisa Bevere is very well able to speak for herself, I will let her:
"And why, why, why would I write a book on the virtues of sexual purity when it appears nobody is really interested or listening? And to whom would I write? In answer, this book is for daughters in waiting. It is for mothers to remember. It is for every fallen one who longs to be lifted. And it is for those who've kept themselves, to know and fully realize their reward and be encouraged to remain strong.
"This book is a letter from a generation of mothers and mentors who have known regret, to the daughters of this generation that they might be kept from our failures, and inherit the promises and not the pain. It is a tool for mothers who feel they can't tell their daughters no because years ago they themselves said yes.
"This is not a book of do's and dont's ... it is a book of restoration. A glimpse at how God sees things, a revelation of His original intent. Some might call it an impossible fairy tale, but I believe it can be true. Rules will never set us free, just as fear and control will never keep us safe. It is truth that frees us, one that looms larger than all the lies presently surrounding us. Truth is the dawning of morning where there has been a gross and long night of darkness filled with horrible disappointment and despair ....
"Why have I told you this? Because I believe God wants to tell you a bedtime story, to rock back to sleep what's been so rudely awakened. One to softly lull passions back to a place of waiting and resting in slumber, a story to restore to a dreamlike state what was awakened before its time. A place where fears are calmed and hope is restored. A haven where shame is not permitted, and everything is fresh, new, and clean as flowers after a spring rain."
-- pp. 10-11
This book, if you let it, will take you on a journey from shame to restoration.
And that's the power of purity & a clean heart -- which only God can provide to the fallen, amen.
Empowerment Jun 23, 2006
Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry breathed life into me. I was completely empowered to walk in healthy relationships and break through the bad ones. It is truly life-changing. Let the words in this book turn your nightmare into a dream!
now this is the truth...... Jun 23, 2006
As far as I am concerned our socialized culture has failed in trying to convince me that purity and faithfulness are a thing of the past. I no longer listen to cultural icons whose lives only reflect faithlessness and momentary gratification.I hear a much louder voice, the voice of individuals like Lisa Bevere who speak of truth that is unchanging. Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry is packed full of tools that will help us be the strongest women this world has ever encountered.
Also,I am touched by Lisa's vunerability in this book. She is so willing to talk about her past choices in order that others who come after her will not have to walk down that same painful road. And it is helping to reverse the lies that have taken such a destructive toll on my generation.
Excellent! Jun 23, 2006
This book answers so many questions that generations of woman have secretly asked themselves. How far is too far, can my purity be restored, and what exactly is modesty? Lisa does an excellent job at presenting the word of God in answering these questions. What a blessing to the body of Christ!