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Lois Einhorn deals with one of the most despicable aspects of crime that plagues modern society. -Arun GandhiDuring her healing process, Dr. Einhorn shared her horrific story of ritualistic child abuse with a variety of influential people and asked, "What would YOU do? Do you forgive your parents? HOW do you forgive yourself?"Fifty-three people responded, including: Mumia Abu-Jamal, Patch Adams, M.D., Edward Asner, Rubin "Hurricane" Carter, Laura Davis, Thomas F. Eagleton, Albert Ellis, Paul Ferrini, Lynne Finney, Arun Gandhi, Bishop Thomas J. Gumbleton, Linda Hogan, Rabbi Steven Jacobs, Bill T. Jones, Mary Elizabeth King,, Robert Muller, Daniel Quinn, Robert C. Scaer, M.D., Pete Seeger, Bernie Siegel, M.D., Gerry Spence, Richard E. Vatz, Kurt Waldheim, Everett L. Worthington, Jr., This is a unique and powerful book destined to encourage discussion, dialogue, and debate; and many of the responses will challenge readers to move from a paradigm of revenge and fear to one of love and forgiveness - regardless of the severity of the atrocities.
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Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.32" Width: 6.48" Height: 0.97" Weight: 1.11 lbs.
Release Date Feb 6, 2006
Publisher Robert D. Reed Publishers
ISBN 1931741697 ISBN13 9781931741699
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More About Lois Einhorn & Arun Gandhi
Einhorn, a professor of communication for 33 years at BinghaEinhorn, a professor of communication for 33 years at Binghamton University, she is highly accomplished with many ariclemton University, she is highly accomplished with many aricles, book chapters, and 6 books to her credit including Compass, book chapters, and 6 books to her credit including Compassionate Fairy Tales: A Mother Einhorn Collection. Her many asionate Fairy Tales: A Mother Einhorn Collection. Her many awards include four teaching awards and an award by the Worldwards include four teaching awards and an award by the World Forgiveness Alliance that honored her as Heroine of Forgive Forgiveness Alliance that honored her as Heroine of Forgiveness, Reconciliation, and Peace. She has been interested in ness, Reconciliation, and Peace. She has been interested in Dr. Seuss since the age of three and has been enchanted everDr. Seuss since the age of three and has been enchanted ever since. since.
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A Child's Hero Sep 11, 2008
Lois Einhorn's book is nothing short of heroic. She has spoken for many children, particularly girls. The little girls who were small and helpless, who had to remain silent to survive. She has made it clear, at least to me, that none of us are alone in our journey to become whole.
This is a book for anyone who has reason to believe or suspect they have been abused. This is a book written from the heart of a child, not a Therapist, removing the techical terminology. If the memories are repressed, this book will bring them out of the dark and into conciousness, at least in glimpses. It is at this point, though not easy, the memories will start to heal. We cannot heal if we do not see what is in need of healing.
Lois Einhorn is an angel, a brave and selfless angel.
Essential Reading For The Wounded Soul Sep 1, 2008
The format for this book is what makes it so helpful. Lois offers no solutions, no formulas, no "pat" answers, no "shoulds". Instead, she allows the guest contributors to pose responses (not answers) to her questions about forgiveness, shame, blame, guilt, and about self-forgiveness. I found it to be very therapeutic to read through it, one brief chapter at a time, and then to take "time out" after each one to reflect a little on my own situation and decide how the ideas of various contributors meshed, or conflicted with my own. I found my own thoughts and feelings changing, shifting, emerging, and transforming as I reflected on the ideas being presented.
I liked that the book allowed for a wide range of conflicting points of view - which made me even more aware of how forgiveness needs to be an individual choice and an individual process - if it is pursued at all. There is no question that this is one of the most important healing resources available to people who are carrying wounds and burdens that need to be addressed. I am about to begin re-reading it now (one short chapter a day is the way that works best for me - to allow the necessary self-reflection time. I would highly recommend it for anyone who serves to help other people to let go of wounded energies, and to those who carry the unresolved trauma inside of themselves. It is an important piece of work and a brilliant alternative to all the useless "how-to" manuals that are a waste of time when dealing with issues of complicated trauma and abuse.
Dr. Einhorn's personal story is not an easy read. Her personal story of victimization is worse than anything I can imagine, and the fact that she has the bravery and courage to share her pain and her triumphant recovery with the world, through this book, is a testiment to the strength of the Spirit of Good-Will that lives deeper than the most evil demons that lurk within us all. I feel blessed to have run across this book and I am sure that it has moved me forward in huge steps in terms of my understanding of what it means to forgive, let go, and move on. Thank you, Lois Einhorn. God Bless you. Your willingness to illuminate the personal process, if not the pathway to healing makes you not just a wise communicator, but a respected leader in my books.
Self-help to healing Jun 30, 2008
Reviewed by LuAnn Morgan for RebeccasReads (6/08)
When Lois Einhorn was a child, she endured unspeakable abuse. She was beaten, tortured and sexually assaulted by the two people who were entrusted to nurture and care for her - her parents. In writing this book, Ms. Einhorn asked a variety of people from all walks of life to read her story and contemplate the answer to the question, "Would you forgive?" The answers she received ran through an entire gamut of alternatives. Some said yes, others said no. Yet, it was the ones who refused to answer or who shared their feelings and left the answer up to her (and the reader) that make up the most crucial responses. These are the opinions that seem to bring the readers closer to the heart of the issue as it forces them to think about what they themselves would do in a similar situation.
The book begins with a brief history of what Einhorn (and her sister) went through as children. The heart-rending tale of the horrors these two little girls lived with day in and day out will make the reader take pause and thank God for the parents he or she had. Could anything be worse than a child forced to crawl around on all fours for an entire day, while being beaten and gorged with wires and electrocuted? Could anything be worse than being tortured and forced to torture your own sister and kill animals? The answer, unfortunately, is yes. What is truly worse is to live with the after-effects of growing up in those conditions and then, having to suffer the guilt of taking part in the psychotic schemes of two obviously disturbed adults.
That's what Einhorn had to come to terms with and it's the reason behind the book. The responders include journalists, authors, doctors, trauma experts, psychologists, actors, activists, researchers, educators, politicians, religious leaders and more. They also include men who for one reason or another are serving time in prison for their own crimes against society.
The answers will, at times, make the reader angry, especially when they question Einhorn's feelings. The fact that she survived and went on to make enormous strides in her life is nothing short of miraculous. She has every reason to be commended for her contributions as an adult to the world we all face daily.
Truly, this book ranks at the top of those contributions. It is a book that will provide solace to those who have faced similar violence and to those who haven't. They are the ones who need to come to an acceptance and understanding about the suffering many children have to endure. They are also the ones who can step forward and try to put a stop to that same suffering.
I found "Forgiveness and Child Abuse" nothing short of phenomenal. It's a wonderfully candid and thoughtful book that takes the reader on a voyage of discovery into a world few are privy to. This book will stay on my shelf until I meet someone who needs it for their own healing. At that point, I will pass it on.
A deeply healing experience Apr 1, 2007
I found an article on Lois Einhorn's book in the newsletter of A Course in Miracles, and instantly knew I must have it. When I read the book, I could not take my eyes from the pages. I recognized in Lois a kindred soul, and recognized also the self-contempt and selfhatred we as torture-victims have etched into our soul. As most abuse-survivors know, it is so difficult to let go of this self-hatred: it comes from being programmed to believe that what happened, happened because we deserved it, because we were inherent GUILTY. It's lodged in our cells. Daniel Quinn, one of the 53 people who gave their view on forgiving the unforgivable, writes: "The torture devised by your parents for you and your sister was specially designed to destroy your humanity by forcing you to become torturers yourselves." And: "The scar they wanted you to bear forever was a guilt that must seem unforgivable no matter how clearly it's shown to be understood." By writing this now, I still feel the tremendous gratitude I felt by reading Quinn's words - recognizing the truth in them - as well as the other 52 writers' contribution. For anyone having been abused, knows that it all comes down to forgiving, and we surely need all the help we can get on HOW to forgive. The book lifted me up and allowed me to see my own shining humanity: it was not destroyed. It allowed me to look deeply into my torturers' soul; and find it there too; hidden behind a guilt so deep that they needed to put it on someone outside themselves to survive. And I felt a huge joy spread inside: as an adult, I could have chosen to do the same with my child - and I did not. So where there was selfhatred and agonizing selfcontempt and disgust before, is joy now. We can survive, when we remember who we truly are - and this book has helped me to remember.
Courage at its best Nov 26, 2006
Reviewed by Debra Gaynor for Reader Views (11/06)
Child abuse is a topic of discussion at the forefront of today's headlines. But in the past it was something that you did not discuss. It was something that was hidden from the eye of others. For too many years people turned a blind eye on both the victim and abuser. This book forces our eyes to look directly at the issue.
This book shares the responses to the questions: "What would YOU do? You are a child in a family that sadistically abuses. You are forced to torture and destroy. What should you do now as an adult? Do you forgive your parents? HOW do you forgive yourself?"
This book is not for the faint hearted. The types of abuse that are discussed sickened me. How the author Lois lived through the abuse she describes, is beyond imagining. The physical scars are only the beginning. The emotional scars are even worse and take longer to heal, if they ever heal. "How can I forgive my parents, people who tried to force me to hate myself, live in terror, and forget and/or rewrite my childhood? Am I heartless because, I do not feel empathy for them? In order to abuse me as they did, my parents had to stop seeing me as a human being. Are there acts too horrific to forgive?"
After all these years Lois still has not forgiven herself. Few if any would consider her guilty of anything. But still she searches for forgiveness. Lois, I want you to take a good look at what you have done, given this past, and have a tidal wave of gratitude that you did not turn out like Charles Manson. You've done great. YOU are responsible for having done great. What happened to you was horrible and should never happen again. This is the task -to make a loving world.
This book is well written and documented. The author has poured out her heart and opened old wounds to educate the public concerning a growing epidemic of child abuse. Many of us feel that our parents have been "mean" to us. This is not about a mean parent, it is about parents that degrade and torture and repeatedly abuse their children. I highly recommend this book to everyone. Everyone should have to read this so that they will understand what abuse is and how it affects the victims.
Lois, I think you are courageous to share your story in "Forgiveness and Child Abuse." It is my sincere hope that you can find forgiveness for yourself.