Item description for Midlife Manual for Men: Finding Significance in the Second Half (Life Transitions) by Stephen Arterburn & John Shore...
Overview A fresh and funny--yet utterly serious--book about men and midlife, from the bestselling author of the EVERY MAN'S BATTLE series, Stephen Arterburn. Written for every man who is in or near midlife, it examines five roles men inhabit throughout their lives--that of He-Man, Son, Husband, Provider, and Father--and shows how God uses those roles to build the qualities that make a truly good man. This practical and encouraging book gives men the tools to make the rest of their lives matter.
Publishers Description A fresh and funny--yet utterly serious--book about men and midlife, from the bestselling author of the Every Man's Battle series, Stephen Arterburn. Written for every man who is in or near midlife, it examines the roles men inhabit throughout their lives and shows how God uses those roles to build the qualities that make a truly good man. This practical and encouraging book gives men the tools to make the rest of their lives matter. Stephen Arterburn and coauthor John Shore, both men in midlife, speak men's language. They're straightforward, not sugarcoating the issues of aging, fear of death, and feelings of loss or failure. They offer hope and show readers how they can live God-honoring significant lives. This is a book that pastors will want their men's ministries to read, accountability groups will discuss, and wives will buy for their husbands.
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Studio: Bethany House
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.42" Width: 5.8" Height: 0.6" Weight: 0.56 lbs.
Release Date Jan 1, 2009
Publisher Baker Publishing Group
Series Life Transitions
ISBN 0764206613 ISBN13 9780764206610
Availability 0 units.
More About Stephen Arterburn & John Shore
Steve Arterburn is host of "New Life Live!", a radio and television program distributed across the country. He is a best-selling author with more than eight million books in print. He is also founder of Women of Faith(R), a conference attended by more than four million women since its inception. Steve also serves as the teaching pastor of Heartland Church in Indianapolis, Indiana.
Stephen Arterburn currently resides in Laguna Beach Los Angeles Lagun, in the state of California. Stephen Arterburn was born in 1953.
Stephen Arterburn has published or released items in the following series...
Reviews - What do customers think about Midlife Manual For Men?
So much said without much said Apr 14, 2008
I had high expectations for this book because I got some great insight from one of Steve Arterburn's other books. Unfortunately I found this one very dissapointing. (So much so that I chose to leave my copy finished in a hotel room.) There are some choice nuggets in it, but by and large it says a lot without saying much at all. Rather than challenging guys of my age it seemed to just go soft on us, and challenge us to get in touch with our inner boy. I hungered for more. It was also very light on sharp biblical advice - which I'd hope for from these Christian writers. Arterburn is a talented writing who has a very easy-going readable style. But here he felt more like a good buddy that didn't want to rock the boat than the mentor or the coach he had permission to be when I bought his book.
Great Resource Apr 7, 2008
A mid-life crisis can either make or break a man; it truly can be a time of crisis. This informative book, as well as the audio version, will help walk a man through this difficult time period.
While this book is chock full of helpful information, it is also an easy read. The author does a great job in helping the reader understand what is happening and to make plans to make this 2nd half of life the best years yet!
Transition to Midlife - A Wake Up Call for Men Mar 29, 2008
"Midlife Manual For Men" is a book about men and for men. It is about finding significance as a man, a son, a husband, a provider, and a father. The authors show how all of life to date is preparation for the days ahead, the last half of life, man's best years.
The book is developed by the stages in a man's life and the roles of he takes in each of these stages. The authors use their own experiences and those of other real life men as examples to illustrate important principles. They often use a humorous approach to look at realty as they contrast the myths and preconceived conclusions prevalent among men today.
The book is addressed primarily toward Christian men who often have unique backgrounds, passions and goals. There is a strong emphasis on the importance of integrity, openheartedness, lovingness, faithfulness, and humility. I particularly appreciated the suggestions and ideas for putting into practice the life lessons introduced under the various topics within each chapter.
As the second son of a family of eight children and the father and provider for my own four sons, and the husband of a loving wife, I found practical meaningful applications in every chapter of the book.
"Midlife Manual For Men" is a guidebook for men in transition. Practical, timely, informative, and important are only precursors to the impact this book can have on the man willing to apply the principles set forth.
John Shore and Stephen Arterburn are qualified, articulate communicators with heartfelt concerns for motivating and enabling, men to develop their full potential while enjoying the experience of being the man they are and the man they were intended to be. "Midlife Manual For Men" is must read for every man in or approaching the second half.
Some good insight, but struggles Mar 19, 2008
I picked up this book in part because I found some valuable insight in Arterburn's Everyman's Battle and in part because I'm approaching 40 and getting more introspective about my life. While I found some parts of this book helpful, overall I have to give it a mixed review. The target audience appears to be boomers thoroughly enmeshed in the evangelical subculture and who are going through "mild" midlife crises. For those who've made a complete mess of their lives or as an evangelical tool to minister to non-Christian men in mid-life crisis, this book is not for you. You may well find some helpful advice, but the 'Manual' is too lightweight to offer any solid help.
Pros - The authors hit on several very good points in the sections on the things parents taught us about life and about ourselves. Even as men the effects of parental influence can still be felt profoundly.
The section about what men in midlife have gained in terms of perspective on life and how time changes things has some keen insight as does the discussion of not taking our wives for granted.
The authors have a refreshing view of God's love and desire for relationship with us, particularly for guys who come out of a fundamentalist background. God indeed created us to enjoy both Him and His creation.
Following the patter of "exercises" from the Everyman series, Arterburn is big on writing exercises. Whether you take the suggestion literally or use his questions to think through our roles and how our history has shaped our character, the idea is a good one and can be used to great benefit.
Cons - As a self-proclaimed Christian book, I would have expected something about the bible in it. Arterburn and Shore presuppose a Christian audience, however the few references to "wanting to live for God" in the 2nd half of life notwithstanding, there are virtually no references to scripture in the whole book.
Arterburn's pseudo stream of consciousness writing gets in the way of the message. It's hard to read too seriously when the writing is like one-sided dialog that's attempting to sound cool. Also as a matter of style, many of the illustrative stories are kind of obtuse and don't really seem to emphasize whatever the particular point is the authors are attempting to make.
I did not feel that the book dealt substantively with serious, but all too common issues of addiction that plague men; issues such as pornography (there is a passing reference), anger, greed and materialism, and other forms of habitual behavioral patterns that heavily impact mid-life issues. On a similar vein, I felt that some of the sections of the book offered to tackle very good subjects, but fell short on dealing with the underlying issues. For example the section on "keeping secrets" doesn't address what to do if the secrets are things like an affair in the past or an addiction to porn or having been molested as a kid or any one of those other unsavory issues guys all too often have.
In summary, you'll get out of this book what you put into it. I consider the main value is in the "To Do" sections if the reader puts some thought into it.
Something to consider when entering that midlife paradigm Mar 18, 2008
This audio examines the roles men play throughout their lives, such as the Son, Husband, Provider, and Father. This practical and encouraging audio gives men the tools to make the rest of their lives matter, while examining issues such as aging, fear of death, and feelings of loss or failure. The authors offer hope and show readers how they can live significant lives.