Item description for The Orphaned Adult: Understanding and Coping with Grief and Change After the Death of Our Parents by Alexander Levy...
Overview "The Orphaned Adult" validates the wide array of disorienting emotions that can accompany the death of one's parents by sharing the author's heart-felt experience of loss as well as the moving stories of countless other adults.
Publishers Description Losing our parents when we ourselves are adults is in the natural order of things, a rite of passage into true adulthood. But whether we lose them suddenly or after a prolonged illness, and whether we were close to or estranged from them, this passage proves inevitably more difficult than we thought it would be. A much-needed and knowledgeable discussion of this adult phenomenon, "The Orphaned Adult" validates the wide array of disorienting emotions that can accompany the death of our parents by sharing both the author's heart-felt experience of loss and the moving stories of countless adults who have shared their losses with him. From the recognition of our own mortality and sudden child-like sorrow to a sometimes-subtle change in identity or shift of roles in the surviving family, "The Orphaned Adult" guides readers through the storm of change this passage brings and anchors them with its compassionate and reassuring wisdom.
Citations And Professional Reviews The Orphaned Adult: Understanding and Coping with Grief and Change After the Death of Our Parents by Alexander Levy has been reviewed by professional book reviewers and journalists at the following establishments -
Wilson Public Library Catalog - 12/31/2008 page 58
Wilson Public Library Catalog - 01/01/2004 page 49
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Studio: Da Capo Press
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.34" Width: 5.3" Height: 0.55" Weight: 0.5 lbs.
Release Date Oct 19, 2000
Publisher Da Capo Press
ISBN 0738203610 ISBN13 9780738203614
Availability 0 units.
More About Alexander Levy
Alexander Levy has been a psychologist in private practice for over twenty years. He lives on a farm in Pennsylvania.
Alexander Levy currently resides in the state of Pennsylvania.
Reviews - What do customers think about The Orphaned Adult: Understanding and Coping with Grief and Change After the Death of Our Parents?
Tender, understanding and especially supportive of orphaned adults of Eastern European descent. May 8, 2008
Even though I finished reading this book almost three months ago, I have been waiting to write a review on it. My Lithuanian born father passed away in his home almost nine months ago. Like the author I grew up in a home where languages other than English--Lithuanian and German--were spoken and played on the radio. As described: "The vapors of richly flavored cabbage soups and exotically spiced stews so permeated the wallpaper and woodwork that the odors filled the house on sweltering summer days regardless of what was on the stove. Homes were shrines to foreign lands, walls draped in faded tapestries and bookshelves lined with illegibly embossed and brittle book bindings." How true! My father almost to his dying day enjoyed the food of his homeland still cooked by my mother. (How he loved saltibarscius--or cold beet soup!) I miss those days of childhood and could never truly recreate what they meant to me growing up in suburban Detroit. However the author reassures me that we are never entirely free of our attachment there: "Who we knew, who we loved, and who we have been loved by are enduring facts that provide continuity in our otherwise changing lives." Likewise it is my father's memory and the memory of my mother with him that endures in my heart--memories left that are so endearing, so precious and worthy to be "preserved as carefully as if they were brittle snapshots displayed in ornate frames, on a table covered with the finest linen or lace." I know that my mother will be joining my father in the not-to-distant future but I know that her memory, as his, will never die. I truly believe that in loving and preserving the gifts of a heritage our parents gave us that we are given the strength to endure and go on. The Lithuanian people, a culture that has existed for over 700 years, from a country often occupied by its enemies, in the past not even noted on some western maps, can attest to that.
The Orphaned Adult Mar 28, 2008
Most everyone outlives their parents. It doesn't matter at what age you lose them, once they are both gone, you are an orphan. My husband of 65 has just lost his 96 year old mother and he feels as abandoned as a child. This book is a great comfort because it addresses this very common but still emotionally serious subject. As Levy points out, there are volumes dedicated to the loss of spouse, child, siblings, etc but nothing to comfort us all who lose our parents. I have given this book to many friends who have lost their final parent - in fact this order was for two friends. I recommend it highly.
This is my favorite book on the subject Mar 23, 2008
I read every book on this subject I could find after my parents and aunt passed away. This was, by far, my favorite. I've given it away as a Hospice volunteer and to friends grieving the loss of a parent. Comforting and very helpful - don't pass it up.
This book helped me tremendously Nov 8, 2007
I thought that the loss of my Mom would be more or less the same impact as losing my Dad 7 years earlier. WRONG. I did not understand how hard I would bump into my own mortality. I also underestimated how losing the only person left that I had known (and had known me) my ENTIRE life, from the moment I was born, would impact me. Like a ton of bricks it hit me. This book helped me with a light touch and helped me to understand much of the weird turmoil I was and am still experiencing. Much as anyone else says "I know exactly what you're going thru", unless they've lost BOTH parents, they don't quite get it. I know I didn't before it happened to me. If you're newly orphaned, read this book.
A Must Read Oct 17, 2007
I lost both my parents within 2 months in the summer of 2007. Dad was not totally unexpected but Mom was a shock. I chose this book from a list recommeded by hospice. It reaffirmed and validated all the complicated feelings and total sadness that consumed many hours of my day. People are supposed to live to bury their parents so until it happens to you, you have no idea of the devastation. Society ignores this for the most part. This book lets you know you are not alone in your feelings of loss. It also offers hope and expectation that in time you will feel normal and happy again, even if you never completely get over it.