Item description for With One Voice: Singleness, Dating, and Marriage to the Glory of God by Alex Chediak & Marni Chediak...
Overview Are you looking for a certain kind of person or are you becoming one? The process of romance for unmarried Christians is about as complicated for singles today as it has ever been, perhaps even more so as behavior is no longer restrained by peer-pressure inside and outside the church. Christians are fighting against a conflicting cultural ethos; reducing the beauty of God-invented sexuality to just another entertainment option. However, lifelong marriage, though less common today, is still God's plan for most people... and isn't God's plan the best plan? Alex and Marni Chediak show that it is more important to become a certain type of person than it is to find a certain type of person. They offer wise guidance in how we should go about choosing a partner.
Publishers Description Are you looking for a certain kind of person or are you becoming one? Christians are fighting against a conflicting cultural ethos; reducing the beauty of God-invented sexuality to just another entertainment option. However, lifelong marriage, though less common today, is still God's plan for most people... and isn't God's plan the best plan? Alex and Marni Chediak show that it is more important to become a certain type of person than it is to find a certain type of person. They offer wise guidance in how we should go about choosing a partner. Alex Chediak has spent the last 7 years in ministries to young people at Summer Camps, High Schools and Colleges. He is the editor of 'Five Paths to the Love of your Life' - a resource manual about the issues in this book. Alex is currently an Apprentice at The Bethlehem Institute, Minneapolis.
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Studio: Christian Focus
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 7.84" Width: 5.08" Height: 0.45" Weight: 0.31 lbs.
Release Date Sep 20, 2012
Publisher Christian Focus Publications
ISBN 1845501241 ISBN13 9781845501242
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A Concise and Compact Explanation about Biblical Singleness, Dating, Marriage Mar 18, 2008
I recently read With One Voice: Singleness, Dating & Marriage to the Glory of God by Alex Chediak (with Marni Chediak), seeking a biblical perspective on singleness and dating that does not follow directly with theological dating frameworks of Joshua Harris or Cloud/Townsend. I first came across Chediak's book last year when I found my way onto his website and found reviews and a good summary of it. I suppose I have been planning on reading it soon, but the plethora of books on Christian dating eclipsed this less popular work by a less popular writer.
As I have previously mentioned, Alex Chediak was an apprentice at The Bethlehem Institute under Pastors John Piper and Tom Steller. The Bethlehem Institute is the seminary-level training program of Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, MN. Alex is currently an Associate Professor of Engineering at California Baptist University, so it seems that he is pursuing his ministry and calling in a non-vocational role while earning a living as a professor of a non-theological subject.
What drew me to buy this book was first because of Chediak's credentials as an apprentice under Piper, and further, the book's endorsements made it very reputable (the endorsement at the top of the front cover is from none other than Al Mohler!). With all this in mind, I was hoping that this would bring a new perspective to the topic of singleness and courtship from a biblical (and likely a Reformed Baptist) perspective.
When the book arrived, I was somewhat disappointed at its large font size which basically averages to about 6 words per line in its overt Verdana-like font type. Add to that, the title page font and the number and titles at the beginning of each chapter are in a weird looking thin, faded font that made it look really out of place. In short, the design of the body of this book did not match its simple and attractive cover, and this short 150-page book should really be even shorter consider its use of a large, modern font. I certainly was hoping for a longer explanation of Chediak's insights into relationships between Christians, but I felt somewhat shafted for what I paid for it.
While "With One Voice" is a short volume, it makes up for this with a very concise, albeit, compact explanation about how to glorify God in one's singleness, dating life, and even married life. Alex Chediak has written a very practical framework for Christians to consider using in their own relationships with the opposite gender, though I am sure there are many out there who think his descriptors of the 4 stages of premarital relationships too strict and boxed in. Nevertheless, I heartily recommend this book to all who seek a concise, biblical perspective on Christian dating. This book won't tell you who to date or marry, but it certainly describes principles to follow that come out of God's inerrant Word.
I confess that I myself find that those stages are not necessarily mutually exclusive, though I am being convinced that there could be much emotional benefit on the long run and less heartache in the short run if we could be more diligent in adhering to the boundaries that God has set for us. Any boundary is hard to stick with due to original sin and our sinful nature, but through the Cross of Christ we can succeed in glorifying God in our relationships. Trusting God to work our out relationships and following the biblical principles of manhood and woman He has set out for us, it is only a matter of time that you and your two will magnify the Lord with one voice. "No matter where you've been yesterday, seek Him for your tomorrow."
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A fresh & Biblical perspective on singleness, dating, & marriage Oct 9, 2006
With One Voice is a book for singles, dating, engaged or married couples, parents, those that work with youth, or anyone interested in learning how to glorify God in their specific role in the body of Christ. The book is firmly rooted in scripture and frames the concepts of singleness, dating, and marriage through the lens of a Christian worldview. It has a simple premise that allows for easy reading with thoughtful questions at the conclusion of every chapter.
As a single woman who has read many books on singleness and dating I was wary of yet another reminder of my station as a Christian single and what I was missing out on. However, this book allowed me to have a fresh perspective of my singleness and pointed me to God's Word as the foundation of all of the various roles we may move through in life: single, couple, married, parent, mentor, etc. Alex & Marni Chediak offer new insight on the importance of becoming a man/woman after God's heart, holding every thought captive to God's authority, and not giving into the temptations this world holds right in front of us.
I also wondered if I would be able to refer this book to other single friends. I can say with confidence that I have indeed recommended and given this book to my single, dating, and married friends, including my pastors. I also have encouraged parents of youth at my church to look at it (after the Bible of course) as a resource to handling dating in the lives of their teenagers. I have to admit that I was led to this book by the young gentleman I am dating. This book afforded an opportunity for us to have meaningful conversations on relationship, dating, and marriage during a time of separation by distance. This book reminded us that God must be the foundation for any relationship headed toward marriage, and that the Holy Spirit is critical to the continued development of our biblical masculinity and femininity. The frequently asked questions in the back of the book also offer some simple and sound advice on controversial issues surrounding dating and relationships (including homosexuality, pornography, dating non-Christians, etc). Ultimately, With One Voice is a helpful resource that I personally benefited from.
Feels like a conversation out of the Chediak's kitchen table... Sep 2, 2006
With One Voice feels like a conversation right out of the Chediaks' kitchen table: biblically accurate and immensely readable, this book is a great resource for Christian singles of the world today desiring godly mentorship and advice. Alex and Marni Chediak recently traveled the road of singleness, dating/courtship, engagement and marriage, so their advice is timely and accurately addresses the cultural norms that pervade our current society. This book is an example of how to apply biblical principles to a post-modern world filled with delayed adolescence, loose sexuality, increased numbers of passive men and domineering women. I am reminded that our Christian witness involves a level of discernment and sensitivity to how the gospel can be faithfully juxtaposed against secular worldviews as well as how it can be applied to current society.
Alex Chediak starts off with a fascinating chapter on the trends on dating and marriage over the last century, the establishment of the normalcy of marriage, a discussion of biblical masculinity and femininity, followed by a chapter on practical outworkings of gender roles, and finally, helpful advice on choosing a mate and proceeding from friendship to marriage. I thought that the middle sections, on biblical masculinity and femininity were particularly instructive as well as the frank discussion on how a sinful perversion of gender roles results in emasculated men and domineering women. I'm also glad that the authors touched on platonic relationships between single males and females, and how single females especially can cultivate biblical masculinity in their male friends. Overall, Alex and Marni Chediak cover all the bases in the single to married rollercoaster, while doing so with humility and pastoral care.
With any book on such a broad range of topics and directed at a broad range of readers, not everything can be thoroughly covered. For example, the sections on male and female complementary roles could be a book in and of itself, especially given recent and hotly contested views on biblical gender roles in a marriage. In addition, more specific scriptural references would not only be illuminating and beneficial for the reader, it would also increase the authority of the book in tying it more tightly with our highest authority - the Bible.
As it is, With One Voice is a great resource for Christian singles, parents and pastors, for it is a culturally relevant and biblically sound guide to singleness, dating and marriage. For pastors and parents, this book is especially helpful in understanding the struggles that current young men and women face, and can definitely help you in giving mentorship and advice to loved ones. For singles caught in the fray, this book will give voice to the problems you see, as well as would offer helpful suggestions for a God-glorifying relationship. I would personally recommend it to any friend who is starting to think about godly romantic relationships.
Solid, Biblical, advice for young men and women Aug 10, 2006
Alex and Marni Chediak have done a nice job summarizing many of the issues facing today's Christian singles. While the book is relatively brief (150 pages), it is long on honest, Biblical advice and focuses from cover to cover on displaying the glory of God through our (single or married) relationships. The book is generally well written and should speak well to both teenagers and older singles.
The book gives good, practical advice throughout, including some insightful comments on how premarital relationships frequently progress - and some of the potential pitfalls for both men and women. The chapters on "Choosing Wisely" and "Proceeding Carefully" can help both men and women better understand their differences and appropriately navigate their way to a joy filled and Christ honoring marriage.
My wife and I plan to use the book this fall as a primary resource in a study group we host for teens. While we don't plan to go through the book chapter-by-chapter, we will cover most of the material presented in one form or another. We already know of a few in our group who have either begun or have even finished the book and have heard some good comments from them indicating that they are both being challenged in their thinking and are seeing how today's culture has negatively impacted their relationships.
Overall, this is a brief, but solidly Biblical book that will be an excellent resource for many young singles.
Helpful, biblical, practical framework for dating and marriage Aug 2, 2006
Alex Chediak has recently followed up on his first well-received book on Christian dating ("5 Paths to the Love of your Life") with another valuable resource for building godly marriages ("With One Voice: Singleness, Dating, and Marriage to the Glory of God"). In this latter book, Alex teams with his wife Marni to describe a biblical framework for evaluating a potential spouse and (more importantly) becoming the kind of spouse someone would want to marry.
The entire book is very helpful, with initial chapters on both the history and `normalcy' of marriage, as well as the interaction of godly masculine and feminine roles in marriage. The book concludes with two chapters full of practical, valuable advice. In "Choosing (a spouse) Wisely", the Chediaks describe both objective and subjective criteria in selecting a spouse, and caution that one can err either by setting standards that are too high or ones that are too low. In "Proceeding Carefully", they describe the progression of premarital relationships in terms of four stages ("Friendship and Initiation", "The Beginnings of Romantic Involvement", "Later Stages of a Romantic Relationship", and "Leaving and Cleaving") with sound, God-centered wisdom.
I'm thankful for the Chediaks' written contributions toward godly dating and marriage, and pray that many couples will create stronger, more God-glorifying marriages because of the message contained in these books.